Jimn Kyles

Unstuck & Unstoppable

007: Life's Battlefield Pt.2

This week we will discuss the different types of negative thoughts and help you identify if you are a negative thinker. We will provide you with tools to overcome it by giving you five tips to help you overcome negative thinking.


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Jimn Kyles 0:00
Welcome to the unstuck and unstoppable podcast where we help you move your life forward. If you’ve ever found yourself struggling with negative thoughts or negative thinking, then you’re listening and watching the right episode of our podcast today. I’m Jimn kyles . I’m here with my co host, Jole Garza.

Jolea Garza 0:18
Hey, I’m so excited to continue this conversation.

Jimn Kyles 0:20
Hey, super excited to Hey, we are in this part two. Yes. Absolutely. pumped to have you join us battlefield? Yes. Like battlefield? Yeah.

Jolea Garza 0:29
All back to just the way you think and how our

Jimn Kyles 0:32
thoughts Yeah. Oh, I’m so excited. You know, last week we talked, you know, what do we do? And how do you have negative thoughts? Why, yeah, and how it can derail us that your thoughts determine your future, your destiny. And so today, as you are joining us, I want you to get ready, because we’re gonna give you five tips to help you overcome negative thinking. And that’s so important in today’s environment, especially coming out of what we came out of this last couple of years. Yeah.

Jolea Garza 0:58
Well, and I mean, personally, for me, probably way before the pandemic, yeah, you just think about how how pervasive negative thinking can be. And so this is a great opportunity to not only identify, am I a negative thinker? And if the answer is yes, we have the tools to help you do that this. I absolutely love

Jimn Kyles 1:15
what we do that I’m going to ask you, just to help us continue to spread the word. Yeah, there has been such an overflow of great, man, just feedback. People are excited. I told you just the other day, Joe, that we have actually nine different countries. People are listening to us love it. Well, we got people in the Philippines and Belgium and Germany, Japan, Portugal, United Kingdom and even Poland. Yeah. And then Bulgaria. I mean, it’s so cool to see all the different places. And I get a lot of great feedback from people here in the United States. I

Jolea Garza 1:48
actually have a couple that I wanted to show on Apple podcasts. For all of those that listen there. We just want to say hello, hello was, yeah, we had a couple I thought that were great one from five, Tom Essen five. They said refreshing and awesome podcasts, thankful for the powerful nuggets. All throughout the conversation. I’m thankful to have this podcast as a resource to break negative paradigms to get unstuck and remain unstoppable in my life. Another one from Oh, 8k oh five said, such a great podcast. If you’re feeling like you just can’t move forward in some areas. This will help you for sure. Not boring, easy to listen to. And this was my favorite part. They said funny. Wisdom. I’m like, that was just a big win for me. So I just love that.

Jimn Kyles 2:32
Well, you and I are having fun. Yeah. And I think I’m so grateful. Because our whole desire is just to help people get stuck. Yeah, you live a busy life. I live a busy life. But I’m just on a mission about a year ago that you know, I wrote a book. It’s called unstuck and unstoppable. It comes out November 8. Yeah. I’m super excited. It’s gonna be great. You can go to the website, Jimnkyles.com. And get you a pre release ordered or?

Jolea Garza 2:57
Well, a pre release copy or, and I’m really excited to. I’m excited for it to come out November 8, write your copy and get it in hand in November. Yeah, yes. But I think it’s great, because it’ll come out at the end of the year. That means you can read it in November. It’s finished in December, and then plan for a year of unstuck and unstoppable, unstoppable.

Jimn Kyles 3:19
Well, and just I felt that really a new season of my life opened, that I’m gonna help people get unstuck. I’m gonna spend the rest of my life I pastor. And you and I both have the privilege of pastoring, this great church, but we just want to help people get unstuck, and then not only get unstuck, but how can we help you become unstoppable. And so it’s been a fun journey. We’re talking about negative thinking and negative thoughts. You had some homework. So if you went back, if you listened to week one, or watched it on YouTube, you did have a little bit of homework. Yeah, part of that was asked you to take seven day challenge, where for seven days, you’d take an inventory of your thoughts. How did you how did you fare? It was

Jolea Garza 3:57
I really was really good. No, truthfully, I actually kept a notebook with me for a couple days. Not every single day. But I did have my notebook with me and I just wrote down some of those thoughts that just kept coming up. And it was great just to see them and be able to evaluate them. I thought it was really powerful.

Jimn Kyles 4:15
It’s the awareness of it so many times we just we talked about it is it 97% 93% of people surveyed live life on autopilot. So just the fact that I get off of the autopilot, right? And I’m like, Okay, let me evaluate your thoughts that I’m having it just put your foot back on the gas. And then the second thing was to just limit your negative environment. Yes,

Jolea Garza 4:35
I love love, love this assignment. I do this often. So this wasn’t the first time that I’ve done this. But shutting off the news, getting off social media. You know, what you find is even with social media, they’re still such a trap of comparison. So may not be negative, but you are constantly just saying well, I don’t have what they have and all of the small things so cutting out the negative negativity for me was was really a big deal. I love to hear Maybe in our Facebook community, you as you’re listening to this right what impact that had on?

Jimn Kyles 5:04
Oh, did it? Yeah, absolutely. Well in it was that old saying garbage in equals garbage out. So just let trash in trash is what’s going to come out now, let’s dive in because we got a lot of stuff to cover today. And I really believe it’s going to be helpful for you. I think it’s gonna create some, some new patterns and rhythms in your life. And that’s really the greatest desire of our heart. But when talking about negative thoughts, really a negative thought is a negative pattern or repetitive thought, That’s unhelpful. It doesn’t have any positive traction at some level, it’s negative, because really, there’s the fallacy is that well, that’s a neutral thought. But there’s not really neutral thoughts. Thoughts are either positive, or they’re great words are either positive or they’re negative. And so what we want to do is we want to overcome negative thoughts and really, patterns of thinking, right. And because we talked about last week that your life is perfectly designed to produce the results you’re receiving in your life today. Yeah. You know, so whatever you receive today, you designed it. Yeah. Whether either intentional or unintentional. Yep. Because that’s how culture is created. That’s how your life is created. So So you say, Well, I didn’t do anything. Yeah. But if not doing something you have done. So yeah, inactivity is activity. Awesome. And so what are some negative thoughts? You can have anxiety? Wow. You ever had anxiety? You ever just it’s like an overwhelming? Yeah, worry. ruminating on mistakes. Yeah. So you’re a perfectionist? Oh.

Jolea Garza 6:32
Rama, three. Yeah. Being a performer you Oh, not wanting Yeah, mistake. That’s

Jimn Kyles 6:38
right. Yep. And so but you don’t ever want to make a mistake? Absolutely not. No. And so then when you make a mistake, you tell us about it. What is the word ruminate? ruminate, ruminate.

Jolea Garza 6:47
I heard such a great illustration of it. So what cows do they eat grass, they chew on the grass. They though isn’t they thought that for some and they chew it again and again. And they swallow it and they tune in. And that’s exactly what it is. So like for me, I ruminate. So it’s like, okay, I’m not gonna think about it anymore. And then I’m still going back to man, if I had just done this, this and this differently, or I don’t want to hear you know, just some of the negative feedback that will probably come from that mistake. And so it’s just constant.

Jimn Kyles 7:15
Yeah. And with a cow as the Pastor Chris, my mentor, every time they swallow it and bring it back up. It’s worse and nastier. And and in that, what are thoughts? Yeah, it’s legitimately every time we think about that negative action, what we did, it’s never better. It’s always worse. And yet we find ourselves ruminating on the mistakes that you can’t change by just thinking those negative thoughts

Jolea Garza 7:40
or where to shame shame while live. I mean, maybe not for everything but but a lot of times that rumination is you’re living with shame. Yes. And it’s just a lot of negative thoughts from from past mistakes. Yeah,

Jimn Kyles 7:51
negative thoughts. That can also be self criticism. So it’s just I’m constantly a critic of myself now. And I think there’s a balance of being open and honest and aware, right? But you don’t have to be your worst critic. Why don’t we learn to be our best fan? That’s great, and not be a critic of ourselves. Now we can evaluate what I’ve learned is there’s always healthy evaluation, right? So but I don’t want to be a critic of myself that everything I do, I don’t feel like it’s good enough are my brothers Steve, he has a great podcast, loan officer leadership podcast is my twin brother. So if you see him out, and he doesn’t respond to the word, the name, Jim, it’s probably Steve. But I love his phrase. He said anything worth doing is worth doing badly. Yeah. And that’s kind of his catch slogan phrase. And what is he saying? He’s saying, Look, if it’s worth doing, just get started. So don’t worry about if it’s good enough, or if it meets this standard is like, Man, I’m just going to move it forward and not be a critic, but I’m going to be a fan that the fact how many times can we just applaud ourself that forward? Progress has taken

Jolea Garza 8:54
Right, exactly. Can you celebrate the small time? I think, I think we brushed past those. I’ve done many counseling sessions. And it’s almost like, you know, my counsel would say, you won’t even celebrate yourself because to celebrate yourself is so it’s so hard for you. It’s like foreign to celebrate yourself, but you’ll find every single mistake that you made and ruminate on them. Take time just to say, Man,

Jimn Kyles 9:17
I did. What my life coach Randy Powell. That’s what he says he’s what he we do. I’ve been in counseling for most, eight or nine years. And I go to counseling every week, and he’s life coach and just amazing. But I’ll never forget one session. We talked about doing something well, and he said, we’re just gonna spend the whole hour celebrating this in a way that we can really get a deep inside and I gotta be honest, I was a little frustrated. Yeah, I’m like, You came in you ain’t got a plan. Yeah, but what

Jolea Garza 9:54
we need to do

Jimn Kyles 9:55
is he said we talked about that all the time. Let’s talk about the celebrating of the wins. That’s great. And there was something deep that happened in realizing that my God, it ain’t all perfect, right. But here’s some things to celebrate. And instead of focusing on the negative, we began to focus on the positive. It was great. And then another way we have negative thoughts is that we fixate on the problems. So it’s always a problem base mentality, right? And not saying, hey, that maybe there’s a opportunity, right? That was something that I learned a long time ago when we have an opportunity when we have a problem. But if all you see as a problem, right, you’ll never move forward with the opportunity. Yeah,

Jolea Garza 10:34
I wonder if there’s anybody who has ever been around somebody and they’re like, man, they just suck the life out of me. It’s like, every time you talk to them, they just finally show vampires. Yeah, they’re just they just talk about all the problems that they’re having. It’s very negative. You you while you’re in the conversation, it feels okay. And then you leave, you’re like, Man, I feel heavy. Like there’s just so much wrong. And yeah, so I just think that that’s a great, you know, indicator as well.

Jimn Kyles 10:59
Yes. Well, and it goes back to they’ve been environments where that’s all they focused right and, and left to yourself, you’ll make it about yourself, and you don’t just get better. Can you hear this? I want you to hear this. You don’t just get better because of time. So I would say time actually erodes. Yeah. And so we tend to lesson we tend to go downhill gravity as a downward pool. So not upward pull, that’s not normal. And so if we’re going to overcome the older you get, you have to intentionally do something right? Or otherwise, you’re going to end up you know, it’s like drifting out at sea. What where do you go wherever the tide takes. So if I’m a boat, I don’t want to just drift. I want to have a motor and I want to be intentional. When I have a compass, I want to have a plan. And I’m gonna go where it is, I’m going so we’re going to help you get there. We got five things to help you with the negative thoughts negative thinking, how are we going to change this in our life? Number one, we need to recognize negative thoughts. And then you’ve got to let them go. Yes. I love that. So recognize negative thoughts? It sounds so simple. And this is part of what the homework was, right? Just the awareness of, okay, what are the primary, many of us have a primary negative thought pattern? So whether it’s I’m not good enough, something happens, and you just constantly say, I’m just not good, right? Well, that happened, because you’re not good enough. Or maybe nobody loves me. Yeah. So your parents neglected you or your dad walked out on you or your your mom left. And so it’s like, nobody loves him. Right?

Jolea Garza 12:27
And then the one time somebody doesn’t open a door for you, you’re like, of course,

Jimn Kyles 12:30
nobody loves me. Nobody loves me. Right? So it’s a constant. And I cannot under understate the value of just recognizing the thoughts that are really because we’re talking about sabotage. You know, how is it that I’m been stuck? I want to recognize the primary drivers that are causing me in this thought pattern to be so negative, and then let it go. I think it frozen. I was gonna sing it. I was trying not to now you used to sing?

Jolea Garza 12:57
I know. I used to do it. Let it go. Come on. Absolutely not.

Jimn Kyles 13:02
They’re watching. They’re listening.

Jolea Garza 13:05
There we go. Look at Disney princess. I was just trying not to make all the parents asked that stuck in their head.

Jimn Kyles 13:13
Let it go. Yeah. So really, this is a term called mindfulness, right. So once, once I have an awareness of, I’m going to be mindful of it. But then I’m going to go into this is another term called cognitive diffusion, cognitive diffusion. That’s where we’re going to diffuse and distance ourselves and disconnect ourselves from thoughts that have plagued our life that are negative. It’s a feeling it’s a thought. It’s a passing sensation. Yeah. So no, everybody doesn’t not love me, like, you know, that’s, that’s a moment. It’s a thought, right. And I want to distance myself from that by recognizing and calling it out. So we have a negative thought call out the negative thought,

Jolea Garza 13:54
Yeah, that’s great. So I think about a couple of examples. So you know, going back to, hey, nobody loves me. Nobody cares about me. So it maybe you’re married, and you’re experiencing that. So every time you love me, right? So every time he does, it doesn’t pick up the groceries on time, they don’t care. He didn’t love me. And then but instead saying, Man, why did I say he doesn’t love me? Maybe he’s just running late. Or maybe, you know, he just forgot the time has nothing to do with me. I also think about you know, personally, for a long time, everybody, every time somebody would say hey, how you doing Julia? I would be like I’m busy. Yeah, and that’s not necessarily a negative thought. But it is negative. It’s just a draw as a drive right? And so and so then I had to stop and say why do I always say I’m busy? What’s going on on the inside of me that I think that’s the right response every single time I connect with somebody

Jimn Kyles 14:45
Absolutely. Well, there’s a phrase you’re talking about if you if you hear those words say like he doesn’t care she doesn’t care they never cognitive diffusion is a name it to tame it that I love that. I heard that a long time ago. You just name it and attend It seems it so good. There’s something you got to get it outside of your thought right? And then recognize say he does love me, right? That’s, that’s here’s what you make it funny or Jess will not something that is so shameful like, oh my god, you had a negative thought had a negative thought,

Jolea Garza 15:16
right? Well you put you’re pulling it out of the subconscious right back to back to where you’re thinking actively thinking about it, right? So even that moment of saying, Oh, well, that person doesn’t care about me. You may not even realize that you’re having that thought you have to catch it when the event happens. So the moment you feel, I think, really what helps us identify those negative thoughts is maybe that first moment of anger or that yeah, initial reaction. And instead of saying, just getting angry, and then maybe it’s just like, you never do this, going, why?

Jimn Kyles 15:45
Well, first you say, hey, that’s, that’s a negative thought. Right? Right. And then yeah, negative thoughts. That’s right, and then pull it forward, then we just evaluate why do I feel that way? Right. I feel like what’s going on? And you know, it’s so true that go back and listen to paradigms, right? Because we have two sessions, one a two week, two on paradigm paradigms, and we talked about so make sure that’s the first thing is you’ve got to recognize the negative thought, then you got to let it go. And then we’re on our way, the second thing is really need to limit ourselves. And our exposure to negative and toxic environment. Oh, good. So talk about negative and toxic.

Jolea Garza 16:21
You know, I was just I was talking to some people today and talking with a group of naked ladies. And they were actually talking about just some of what they do is just like what we did the homework assignment, which is shutting off the media and taking time to not be surrounded by just negative

Jimn Kyles 16:37
thinking. Yeah, well, like you said, internet, it’s website. It’s social media. It’s tremendous. But I also want to challenge you with this, limit your friendships. Friendships are friends. But that’s family by choice. Yeah. And so just say, Hey, I’m gonna limit if you got someone that’s negative, it’s great. It is so much easier for them to pull you down then for you to pull them.

Jolea Garza 16:57
Yeah. So it’s always Mom always said, Show me your friends, I’ll show you your future. That never ends ever. Just to be clear that that concept that thought never ends, if you hang around people that are negative and are always complaining, you know, the sun’s never bright enough, the rooms never hot enough, like whatever it is, that’s always going to be how do you begin to react? You may think you’re super positive, but the minute you get around that person over and over again, then you begin to

Jimn Kyles 17:26
what they say, well, and there was there’s a saying that you are the average of your five closest relationships. So whatever your five closest relationships are, you’re going to be the average of it. And here’s what I think you could think you’re positive, but you’re just surrounded by negative people. You’re just the least negative person. I want to be around people where I feel like, wow, I’m not negative. Yeah, they’re challenging me. That’s great. And I also want to challenge you with this. If you have a negative work environment, would you consider just changing the work? Why would you give your life and invest your life in a place that just pulls you down? That makes you feel worse than better? Right? Life is too short. So I want to be in place where I’m having fun. Now. I didn’t say easy. Yeah, that’s good. It’s not about easy, but I don’t want to be in a place where my boss is constantly saying negative things to me. coworkers are all negative. The environment is negative right? Now, you know, there’s there’s a there’s a point where as a believer, I want to be a missionary. Yeah. But if the lion’s share is just constant, negative and negativity, I don’t want to do it. Yeah. And so just consider changing what environments do I change? Where do I go? How do I spend my time? And the Bible actually says in as a pastor and a believer, Proverbs 423 says, to guard your heart, well, above all else, for it is the wellspring of life. Well, what does that mean? That means All of life comes out of your heart, and were to guard were to be vigilant. So we guard our ears, we guard our eyes, we, we guard everything that we’re around in the environment that we’re in, if you would protect it, then what happens is only life comes out when only allow good things in, then that’s what happens. Good things come out. Yeah, that’s great. But if I allow bad things, bad things are gonna come out. Yeah. It’s whatever you allow yourself to be immersed in. That’s what’s going to be the fruit of your life.

Jolea Garza 19:07
Yeah, that’s so great. And I think, you know, just one final tidbit, there is just, if you if you leave a conversation, if you stop watching a show or turn something off and you feel drained, maybe you leave your office every day and you just feel drained, then that’s probably an indicator that that’s something you want to consider maybe limiting exposure to

Jimn Kyles 19:26
absolutely. So we’re talking about recognize negative thoughts, let them go. We want to Secondly, limit our exposure to negative and toxic environments. Third, we want to practice and this may be a new thought we talked to just a little bit about it earlier, but I want to practice self compassion. Yeah. So we talked about sharing ourselves on the fan being a fan. Self Compassion is just giving yourself the grace that you would give to someone else great. You know, so many times someone to make a mistake and we said, Ah, it’s okay. Right. It’s okay. It’s okay. And then we make that same mistake and we are critical. We are hard. There’s no grace. There’s no compassion. And I think practicing. Hey, it’s okay. Yeah, I’m not perfect. Hey, it’s okay. You missed it. How many times have I have walked away from a conversation? In fact, yesterday, I text you and I said, Hey, you okay? Was that okay? I think that was a little bit harder than I thought. And then I was because inside I’m having this.

Jolea Garza 20:23
Right. And so it’s so funny because obviously, then my response is, yeah, you’re fine, right? It’s okay.

Jimn Kyles 20:29
So you had compassion? And then I’m learning to say, Okay, well, Joe, okay, good. Okay, I can let myself off the hook. Right, right. Yeah, so self compassion. And I don’t think we need to elaborate more on that. We got two more. The fourth one is we want to stretch our thoughts and our thinking so good. So when we talk about stretching our thoughts and our thinking, Where do you go to stretch who you are to becoming a better version of you? Yeah. So what are you consuming? Yeah,

Jolea Garza 20:58
reading books. You know,

Jimn Kyles 21:00
what a lost art.

Jolea Garza 21:01
Yeah. I really I love, love, love reading. And that’s why, you know, if you if you can take the steps, because if I start with recognizing the negative thoughts, I was so trapped in hay, I’m so busy that I never took time, I was too busy to grow. I was too busy to find ways to be healthy to take care of myself. It was just constantly I’m just so busy. But then I start to think, well, you know, if I want to stretch my thoughts and my thinking, then let me read that to really do some things invest in myself and I had to break that busyness. Yes.

Jimn Kyles 21:34
Well, the thing I love about a book is you can take a topic, people generally write about their life experience. So someone has been invested 1015 20 years, and they’ve condensed it into 50,000 word book. Yeah, I get the mentorship of that person in my life, the lifetime of their experience in this book, right. And I have been mentored by so many great people. You know, I think about John Maxwell. I’ve read almost every book he’s ever produced. James clear atomic habits. Man, you talk about one of the greatest books, I’m actually go list after the Craig Groeschel, his polish his podcast and his books. And, and what I’m learning to do more than ever is to stretch my thoughts. stretch my capacity. So when I find myself in a place where I’m constantly being negative, maybe it’s relationships. My question is, where do you go to stretch your thoughts in relationships? Yeah, and

Jolea Garza 22:25
I think you made a great point, you know, even people so so not only books and content, so that’s books podcast. What are you watching to learn and grow? And then who are you in relationships that can pour into you and challenge maybe some of that those old paradigms? Some of the old negative thoughts? Do you have people in your life that you can reach out to and be like, Hey, man, was that cringe? Or am I okay? Right. And then they can breathe into you and say, you know, hey, you know, it was okay. But here’s some things that I would do differently. You know, you want to have people around you that are willing to challenge you.

Jimn Kyles 23:00
100% Yeah, well, and I just think you got to find people that are winning in areas that you want to grow. Who’s a great dad will go hang out with, right? Who’s a great husband? Well, nobody, okay, well, you got the wrong people, you need to get around there. So you’re stretching your thoughts by creating a stretching environment, and it’s uncomfortable, but that’s okay. We’re not worried about being uncomfortable. We’re worried about getting unstuck, right. We’re not even worried about it, because we’re taking steps to not only get unstuck, but become unstoppable. And then the fifth thing, and this is one that I am so passionate about, it’s cultivating gratitude in your life. So good. And this is one that you don’t make may or may not hear a lot about. But for me, it’s very hard to be negative when I’m grateful. Wow. So man, my wife, never my kids, never my friends never. But when you start to say, Man, I’m so grateful for my wife. You know, she cooks lunch and cooks dinner, she’s cleaned and helping the house. She helps with the kids. She She loves me. She scratches not bad. I mean, all the things that she is a great friend she. And then it’s really difficult to constantly be negative when I’m grateful for what she’s done and who she is. And you just begin to cultivate gratitude. It’s amazing how positive your life. Yeah. So because we always have something to complain about always goes back to the illustration, your glass is half empty or half full. So if it’s negative, it’s half empty. If it’s positive, that’s half full. And in that, then my paradigm has changed. Yeah. And I’m grateful. Okay. Yeah, it was a tough year, but thank God and look at what’s happened and wrote a book and we launched a podcast,

Jolea Garza 24:33
I think it’s so great to I think about finances. You know, specifically, you shared a statistic a couple of weeks ago, about where we, if you make what $30,000 or more you’re in the top 1% of the world. And so it’s so easy to be Hey, I don’t have the latest and greatest things or, or maybe my house is small or whatever it is and yet to be able to look around and be like, Man, I’m just grateful that I have running water or that I have access to this podcast. Qatar, you know, I have air conditioning conditions such there’s so many things that we can be grateful for. And I think that sometimes, and especially in this culture, we’ve been conditioned to always be, to always wonder what we don’t have, and to never be satisfied or content. And I think that’s such a pain, you know, and it’s really harmful

Jimn Kyles 25:20
causes us to get stuck. Yeah. So here we go, I’m gonna say, um, again, first, we want to recognize negative thoughts, we want to let them go. We want to limit our exposure to negative environments and toxic environments. Third, we want to practice self compassion. Fourth, we’re gonna get into place where we’re stretching our thoughts, we’re stretching our thinking. And then the fifth thing is we’re going to cultivate a lifestyle of gratitude. And this is going to get us moving forward, getting rid of these negative thoughts and help us that struggle. Look, you’re if you’re struggling, I just want you to know you’re not the only one, right Joe, you struggle, I struggle. But that’s just the propensity of the downward pull of life, right? So we’re not gonna stay that way. And we’re so proud of you. We’re so proud of the journey that you’re taking, I also want to challenge you, maybe you’re listening to the podcast, or you’re watching on YouTube and you feel stuck. We want to be a resource, go to Jimn kyles.com. We have a free ebook that you can download, it’s help, I’m stuck. It’s gonna help you understand maybe here’s a few reasons why I got stuck. And then give you a couple of steps to move your life forward in that. We also have a few steps we want you to take, we want you to number one, subscribe. Come on, subscribe to the podcast wherever you consume the content. This way, it’ll come automatically to wherever you consume the content. We released new episodes, Tuesday mornings at 5am. Yeah, so you can be looking for it. The second thing is Warren wants to teach

Jolea Garza 26:39
Yeah, we want you to teach one takeaway that you learned from this podcast today. So call somebody. When you go out to dinner with your friends tonight. Tell them about it. Just share one nugget. And that’s how you learn. So we know that teaching helps you learn and

Jimn Kyles 26:53
then want you to engage, engage in our online community. It’s really important that you build community, we’d love to be a part of you go to all of our social media handles. You can go on Instagram, you can go on Facebook is where

Jolea Garza 27:04
the community we have a free Facebook group. Yeah, I’m on Facebook. We love it’s so cool.

Jimn Kyles 27:08
Yeah, we’re posting videos tucked in chat with each of you. And we’d love to continue. Next thing we’re asking you to do is post a review, wherever it is that you consume content, would you just give us a review rate it review it? That means a world to us? Yeah. And also helps us in the ratings and rankings of the podcast world? And then last is share would you share the podcasts? Yeah, the podcast one person just say hey, this is really making a difference in my life fact when you’re done right now, even as you’re listening, just say Hey, check this out. It’s really been good. And we really would appreciate it and just be grateful to go on the journey with not only you but your friends and your family we’re so grateful for today. Can’t wait till next week. It’s gonna be great and we’ll be back so until then, keep moving your life forward one step at a time. God bless ya.


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